Oh no… What have you done! What are you doing! Stop talking! Stop yelling I am not deaf! Stop jumping! Stop running! Stop throwing your dinner! STOPPPPPP! HERE COMES THE BREAKING POINT!
Breaking point for mommies which may lead to crying as well. We, mothers, may feel bad for ourselves. These ‘don’t’ and ‘stop’ commands are not really working. Really?
Talk to yourself
Is it working? Obviously No; because we are not giving them commands, we are actually wrongly reading the signals from our innerself. They are behaving the same they daily do. But we are not in proper shape today. We need little rest. But we are thinking in this way… Am I bad mommy? But my friend is doing so great; she is quick and well organized.
This habit must be completely diminished from our lives. We are mommies,not robots, hence we don’t have identical software. We are different from one another and we are doing great. The comparison to other mommies may lead to frustration. I will never be shouting and monster mommy in front of my friend. I might be strict and composed but I must have been doing a lot of effort to maintain that composure. When I am alone, I might be more louder to make my next generation kid hear me. Hence don’t make me your ideal, you don’t know me how I behave in my kingdom( my nest) and I never want any of you to know. 😁 But I love my nest and nestlings who know my weak and strong moments than anyone else.
Love yourself that will groom you more and more. This can lead to be your ideal mommy which might be you yourself. Not only love rather pamper yourself. You are the best mommy in the whole world for your kids. Hence, you are at winning bench. Fortunately, all mommies are.
Start ignoring few things that bother you and may take you Insanity level. I used to touch that level sbut, after having a heart condition, I learnt to ignore many things to keep sanity for heart and mind. JUST KEEP YOUR ANGER SILENT FOR 10-15SECS. TAKE A DEEP BREATH NOW YOU MAY YELL AND CRY ( IF YOU STILL FEEL LIKE)
GIVE SPACE TO FRIENDS ( OTHER MOMMIES)
Your friends are also going through many issues like this. Don’t expect them to be perfect; especially when you feel that you are. Your perfection can be a reason for their imperfections. Accept them as it is … Give them space by not mentioning their mistakes and your achievements.
Hug your kid when you’re getting out of your mind. If you have preschooler, tell him/her/ them to hug you to give you a smile. Their hugs will give you positive energy. Try it! It works for me.
Kids will forget your low moments and they will remember only your love. You also start forgetting you low moments. Only remember your lovely moments.
In short, mommies! we all are in same journey but our paths and ways are different. That journey is not competition hence no worry if you get tired and sit somewhere. You are the best mommies for your children. So proven… You all are the best. Love, accept and forget your low times. Hugs and kisses of your kids are the keys to your sanity.
DON’T LIST FOR MOMMIES
- don’t compare
- Don’t expect quick response
- Don’t hesitate to cry
- Don’t refrain from talking
- Don’t answer unwanted calls
- Don’t wear same dress daily
- Don’t ignore your lipstick.put it on